Linked & Lift issue #8: 7 ways to Compare Yourself to Your Past for lasting growth.

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CONTEXT

We recently looked at Matthew Dicks's "Someday is Today" for new perspectives on powerful ideas.

Now, let's focus on why comparing ourselves to our past selves leads to lasting changes.

So let's look at 7 strategies for lasting transformation.

THE 7 STRATEGIES FOR LASTING TRANSFORMATION:

1. The Unfair Standard of Comparison

In a world dominated by social media's highlight reels, the comparison trap is real.

The thing is, comparing ourselves to others in the digital age is an unfair game because the rules constantly shift.

We're bombarded with images of seemingly perfect lives, leading to feelings of inadequacy. 

Jordan B. Peterson, in his book '12 Rules for Life', nails this concept with Rule 4.

He wisely suggests, 'Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.'

It's not just a concept; it's a game-changer.

"The proper way to compare yourself to others is to compare yourself to who you were yesterday, last month, or last year." - Jordan B. Peterson

2. The Ancient Wisdom of Tribes

Reflecting on human history, recognition came from real achievements within small tribes.

Serotonin, our brain's reward chemical, was triggered by real, tangible accomplishments.

Today, it's easy for that vital positive feedback to get lost in the noise.

Embrace acknowledgment that matters.

3. The High Standards Dilemma

Standards are crucial. They push us forward, compel us to strive for better.

But when they’re unrealistically high, they become counterproductive.

They breed self-criticism, leading us down a path of feeling incapable and unworthy.

Reject the nihilistic 'nothing matters' mentality—this perspective denies the existence of inherent meaning or value in life. 

Instead, recognize that your life matters. Improvement matters.

Your journey is significant, and finding a balanced approach to standards is key to fostering personal growth and well-being.

"The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be." - Jordan B. Peterson

4. The Praise Paradox

The 20th century propagated a 'you're special, capable of anything' narrative — a well-intentioned but flawed approach.

This constant praise during the 20th century led to high expectations.

This approach often results in a harsh reality check later in life.

Find the balance: acknowledge room for improvement without drowning in self-doubt.

But how do we improve without drowning in self-doubt?

The answer lies in our circadian rhythms. 

5. The Circadian Clock of Progress

Research on circadian genes and kidney function shows that our personal growth is tightly intertwined with our natural circadian rhythms. 

Your personal growth clock ticks internally.

Each day offers a new opportunity to be a slightly improved version of our yesterday selves. 

"The past is not necessarily a reliable guide to the future, but it is the best one we have." - Jordan B. Peterson

6. Set Achievable Goals

Aim to be a slightly better version of yourself each day.

This isn't about monumental overnight changes, but consistent, small steps forward.

Break down big goals into smaller, more manageable tasks.

Celebrate each victory, no matter how small.

Each small victory is a stepping stone towards your larger goal.

It's about consistent steps forward.

7. Limit Social Media Exposure

And finally, remember this: social media breeds envy.

Social media is a curated showcase.

The 'perfect lives' you see are chiseled, polished, and painted.

Don't let comparisonitis thrive in your mind.

Limit your exposure to these unrealistic standards.

Focus on your journey. 

Remember, you're on your own unique journey, and the only person you should be comparing yourself to is the person you were yesterday.

"The meaning of life is to be found in the responsibility you take for your own existence." - Jordan B. Peterson

CLOSING REFLECTIONS:

So, let's embrace the wisdom of Rule 4. 

• Reflect on who you were yesterday and who you want to be tomorrow.

• Make one small change.  

• Measure success against your past self. 

• Celebrate progress, no matter how small. Celebrate that victory.

• Remember, your only competition is yesterday's you. 

• Let the journey be one that unfolds with patience and purpose.

For a deeper dive into these transformative ideas, consider exploring the deep insights in Jordan B. Peterson's "12 Rules for Life." 

Until our next newsletter issue, continue embracing the path of personal growth.

Until next time,

Véronique